If you’ve ever been our my house and visited the guest toilet near the sitting room, you have hopefully spotted a post hanging on the wall above the toilet seat stating “close the lid, before you flush”. The sign is there mainly because I don’t feel comfortable asking my guests directly, but also to inspect who reads vs. who doesn’t.
The fear of confrontation comes with a price obviously, as based on my personal statistics; 99% of the People Do Not Read! and the minority that does, usually forget all about it the next time.
What are we missing by not sparing 30 seconds of our time to read a big sign that is put out there to grab our attention? Imagine if that sign said “this toilet bites your ass”, “there is a glue on the seat” or “your ass will burn for an hour if you seat here”, (just writing this is getting me excited to actually try one of the wicked ideas).
How is not paying attention to a sign is similar to not listening to what the person in front of us has to say?
Apparently 60% of any communication is about listening, from which only 25% is retaining the information. Most of the time we only want to speak vs. want to listen, we want to be interesting vs. being interested.. We fight to make a point that we are 100% right, failing to understand that looking from another perspective the other person could be also 100% right. We fail to understand that in order for us to connect to someone, the key is listening and paying attention.
Here are four steps to help you stay focused on what the person has to say:
1- Receive, allowing your mind to focus on the main point of the conversation.
2- Appreciate the subject and verbalize it.
3- Summarize the topic. You can always start with so..
4- Ask questions.
Please do listen to what people have to say, it’s only by constantly practicing proper listening habits we can
understand each other, therefore connect, and that’s the only way we can create more peaceful relationships. Oh in the meantime make sure to read the signs before your ass is glued to a toilet seat.